What is a woman? (this one goes out to all the AGPs in the house)

“If someone identifies and lives as a woman then they ARE a woman”

Okay Mr and Mrs Woke, shall we unpack that statement just for a second?

Someone identifies as a woman because they feel like a woman? I’ve been a woman for more years than I care to remember, yet I couldn’t tell you what it feels like to be one if you paid me. I know how it feels to be treated like a woman, to live in the body of a female human being but anything else is my own individual personality. And it’s true I don’t know how it feels to be a trans identifying man but that works both ways. You don’t know how it feels to stand up in a public place terrified you’ve got blood all over your skirt OR how it feels for dirty old men to compare you to Page 3 girls when you’re wearing a school uniform OR feeling sick to your stomach because your period is late and your parents will kill you if you’re pregnant OR sobbing your heart out because you need an abortion but the men who rule say “no” OR crying huge snotty tears in a hospital because you’ve found out that your body does not want a baby, even if you yearn for one OR been dismissed from a job when the boss found out you were pregnant OR not got a job in the first place because a male body definitely won’t get pregnant OR been asked to make the tea before a meeting even though you are a senior manager OR have paid the vagina salary tax OR sat at the poolside all holiday because you’re on your period and you don’t know how tampons work OR been told to ‘cheer up love’ just for wearing your normal face OR been doubled up in pain with cramps but carrying on because that’s what women do OR been banned from playing football on FA pitches because the men decided OR had to fight just to be perceived as human in the eyes of the law OR been stoned to death for being raped OR been told you are responsible for your own rape OR knowing that women are hated so much that a country would rather elect someone who abuses them rather than have one in the White House OR…

You say you feel like a woman? What you mean is you feel like showing women how it’s done and, man – that role has been filled 1000 times. I don’t know how you feel but I 100% do know that you have 0% idea what it’s like to be a woman or live like a woman. We are all of the above and so much more, but none of them include peep-hole bras, make-up, cheap wigs or nylon frocks. You want to live as a woman? Funny how you want the lipstick and the wolf whistles but aren’t clamouring to wipe arses or take over the domestic drudgery. It’s almost as if…

Oh and to all you super cool woke dudes out there – imagine if someone was saying they identified as black or disabled and then demanded spaces in programmes designed to promote those groups? You’d be furious and quite right too. Strange how you’re on the other side when women are being told to shut up and suck it up. You wet your pants when a woman commentates on your sacred sport, so god knows how you’d react if a teenage woman decided she was able to represent you as a male officer in Parliament.

Woman is not a feeling. Woman is not a costume. Woman is not a set of gender stereotypes. Every woman on the planet feels differently. Every woman on the planet lives differently. We have a common bond – our biology. So Mr Autogynephile – you may want to be perceived as a woman to fulfil your sexual fetish, but we see right through you. And the funny thing is, you know we’re right and that’s why you hate us so much.

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Angry Bird

Mother of boys and non-boys.

5 thoughts on “What is a woman? (this one goes out to all the AGPs in the house)”

  1. This is a hard, but ultimately necessary pill for many to swallow. While I wholeheartedly believe that every person has the right to live his or her life in whatever ways bring him or her happiness and validation (without affecting the happiness and validation of others, of course) I’m also astutely aware that there are wolves in sheep’s clothing, waiting in the dark to do awful things to the innocent. Thank you for saying what so many (myself included) are hesitant, or rather unsure how, to say. Don’t ever stop.


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